Staying Safe

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Safety Planning

If you are thinking of ending an abusive relationship, it’s important for you to know that there’s a chance the abuser will become more violent. For this reason, it could be useful to think through options to keep safe in your specific situation. A plan of actions to keep you safer from an abuser is usually called “safety planning.” 

On the following pages you can find information on different types of situations a victim can find her/himself at. Not all of these suggestions will work for everyone, and some could even place you in greater danger. You have to do what you think is best to keep yourself and your children safe. In some circumstances, a restraining order may be part of a safety plan. You can also consider contacting a local domestic violence organization. These organizations may be able to help you create a safety plan, provide support, shelter, counseling, legal referrals or other services.

For Domestic Violence Victims

Tips to help try to keep you and your children safe while still living with an abuser.

For Stalking Victims

Tips for how to stay safe if you are a victim of stalking.

For Survivors with Children

Things to consider when you have children and are planning to leave an abusive relationship.

In a Confidential Address

If you have left an abusive home, or you are trying to keep the abuser away from your new confidential address, this page will provide tips for staying safe.

In Court

If you are going to see an abuser or stalker in court, here are some ideas on how to stay safe in the courthouse.

In Rural Areas

If you live in a rural area or a small town, there are some extra things to keep in mind when you are trying to stay safe.

In School

If you are a student, you may want to consider your safety at school as part of your overall safety plan.

When the Abuser Gets Out of Jail

Things to consider when the abuser is in jail or prison.

While Using Social Media

How to stay safe on Facebook, X (Twitter), and other social networks.

While Using the Internet

There are ways that an abuser can access your email and also find out where you have been on the Internet. It is impossible to to hide all your tracks.

Safety Planning

Last Review and Update: May 21, 2025
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